It is a fine line, isn't it? And I can see how she'd be insulted and feel as if she's being talked down to if we imply as much. I can't imagine she felt as if she had much choice, all in all -- between her obligations to the Order, the social pressures, and the very real danger in turning him down. Yes, this was what she was aiming for, that was clear enough; I didn't think he'd move quite this quickly, however.
She's so very young. They all are.
So our fallback is offering as much support as we can. And strongly encouraging her peers to provide more direct support, as well. We might ask Rachel to talk more to her, too, about security, and if they end up talking about other more personal matters, all the better.
Thank you for replying to Ginny. I was not going to be able to respond quite so civilly.
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Re: Private message to Alice
Date: 2015-04-27 04:46 pm (UTC)It is a fine line, isn't it? And I can see how she'd be insulted and feel as if she's being talked down to if we imply as much. I can't imagine she felt as if she had much choice, all in all -- between her obligations to the Order, the social pressures, and the very real danger in turning him down. Yes, this was what she was aiming for, that was clear enough; I didn't think he'd move quite this quickly, however.
She's so very young. They all are.
So our fallback is offering as much support as we can. And strongly encouraging her peers to provide more direct support, as well. We might ask Rachel to talk more to her, too, about security, and if they end up talking about other more personal matters, all the better.
Thank you for replying to Ginny. I was not going to be able to respond quite so civilly.